Happiness what is the secret?

An extract from my forth coming book in draft form “what are you afraid of?

Joy , happiness, pleasure , bliss , euphoria are just a few ideas of what we all want in life. The subject of happiness is so subjected to each person experiences. We may love the idea of being in perpetual happiness, ignorant of all pain and aversion to sadness. Longing for utopia is unrealistic expectation because awareness helps us navigate our feelings and those around us. Writing this reminds me of a child with thier toy box playing quietly and happily in the corner. Then all of a sudden the older sibling comes along and disturbs the serenity of the child’s peace. The older child takes the toys away and the natural reaction from the young child is a emotional response. The child Cries out or stands it ground and takes back the toys in anger. The issue by the two siblings has raised an alarm to the caregivers and they come and investigate the situation. In life we will meet challenges that will effect our emotional states. By acknowledging them and identifying with them will be the cues for the right navigation by the choices we make rather than suppressing them or ignoring them.

Examining the science of joy can help us understand what is happening with our mental states in an organic way. At this point a lot of us probably experienced emotional highs from sex, alcohol, sugar, caffeine, retail therapy, adrenaline sports etc. If we can tap into the resource naturally it will revive our emotional state like a seed planted for the future crop of contentment,satisfaction and pleasure that will last longer than a spike in our happiness by temporary highs that can’t be sustainable.

The science of being happy is occurring in the brain by chemical reactions. The chemicals dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphins are few of the neurotransmitters in the body. They all have specific functions to motivate, reward, intentions, memory , learning and regulate our emotive states. The chemicals messengers have many more duties in the body through the various body systems. When the senses are engaged in positive activities the neuro circuits and pathways in the brain are being fired and linked to previous routes . Another factor to consider regarding our happiness is our disposition and genetics we have inherited from our ancestors and environment. The science of happiness is not a one word fix or a catch phrase because there are many facets to the complexity of the science , psychology and physiology of this optimum state we want.


There are many practical ways to improve our mental state to a more positive joyful orientation that will lead to happiness. By changing the chemistry in our brain is one great way to feel good and experience greater contentment and satisfaction. Our lifestyle is one important ingredient that can improve and revive our happiness state. By identifying areas for improvement and facilitate growth for the seed of joy to expand and flourish in the future.

Here are a few simple suggestions below with easy to read articles click function available . I have read many books exploring the subject in greater clarity which I can recommend.

1 Regular aerobic exercise. https://www.cnet.com/health/ways-exercise-makes-you-happier

2 Nutrition. https://www.self.com/story/the-happiness-diet-how-the-foo

3 Have enough sleep. https://science.howstuffworks.com/life/sleep-happiness.htm

4 Correct breathing. https://www.doyou.com/how-your-breath-can-influence-your-happiness/

5 Being creative. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/doing_something_creative_can_boost_your_well_being

6 Continued learning. https://www.forbes.com/sites/sarahlandrum/2017/09/15/how-learning-leads-to-happiness-for-millennials/#33f99da060c5

7 Find your purpose on this planet. https://tinybuddha.com/blog/discovering-happiness-through-purpose-in-3-natural-steps/

8 Meaningful relationships. https://www.cnbc.com/2017/10/31/this-harvard-study-reveals-how-you-can-be-happier-and-more-successful.html

This list is not exhaustive but by experimenting and exploring what makes you tick can enrich your happiness now and the future.

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